I'm sure not everyone knows this, but my wife is a Resident in Obstetrics and Gynecology at UCSF. We were both pre-med in college, and well, one of us went to medical school and the other did not. For me it was a decision that was made for me, I did not get in. However, this was the best thing that ever happened to me as I would be an absolutely shitty doctor. I was in it for the wrong reasons, and instead I have a job that I cherish. I consider myself very fortunate that I love to go to work.
Now about Residency. I cannot begin to understand how difficult this is. My wife often tries to explain to me some of the emotions she experiences, and the work she does but she knows I don't really have a way of understanding. I do have an enormous amount of respect for her, and her passion for taking care of people. Let’s face it; no one goes into Medicine for the money any more.
A lot of people are shocked by how the Residency system works in this country and a lot of people just don’t know. I personally believe that there is something very wrong about it. What I do tell people is that the reason we have the best healthcare system in the world is because countless people have worked long hours with very little pay and cared tirelessly for the homeless, the uninsured, the wealthy, citizen or non citizen, whomever. They never ask who you are or where you are from, and how you are paying. They do one thing really, and that’s to understand your problems and try and help you within the confines of the system. My wife never complains about the crap pay, or the hours, or the fact that we have one weekend a month to hang out. I find this humbling, and realize that I could not ever do this.
One day I visited her in the hospital after she had just delivered twins for a couple. We ran in to the Mom in the hallway and she was gushing with happiness toward my wife. I was so amazingly touched, and realized that this is probably something I'll never experience at a software company. This kind of experience is an amazing gift to give to some one.
Why am I writing this? Well Joe Beda just posted a link to a new book called “On Call: A Doctor's Days and Nights in Residency" by Emily Transue. Lora has often talked of writing a book about her experiences, and I hope that she does. I think it’s a great way to explain what life is like learning one of our most difficult and important arts.